Posted on March 13, 2012
Changing Perspective Thanks to the Filthy Nomad
Last week I had the good fortune to meet one of the coolest people I have ever come across. My brother Evan had been following a thread on ADVrider.com that followed the adventures of a crazy bastard who was riding his KLR650 across the US, Canada, and down through Mexico.
This “Filthy Nomad”, also known as Alex, ended up running into some trouble down in Mexico toward the end of January. On a ride back into town, his bike ended up completely falling apart. Literally, the frame cracked in two and the bike split into pieces!
He ended up in a bit of a jam down in MX without a working bike, and reached out to the forum for help. Evan sent him a message and offered him some help if he could find a way to San Diego. Well, he ended up making it into town last week, and I’m sure glad he did. Alex rolled into town and Evan had just mentioned that he was in some trouble and just needed a place to crash for a night. Alex rolled in, and initially just needed a place to crash for the night, do some repairs to his bike, and relax. He turned out being one of the coolest people I’ve ever met, and ended up staying for 8 days.
There are a few times in your life when you meet someone and just instantly know that you click. Some people take a while to get to know and trust and feel comfortable around, but Alex is one of those people that you just instantly get good vibes from. Now this dude was a complete stranger when he showed up, and it would be normal to be a little skeptical of letting someone random into your house (although he had a ton of positive feedback through his ride report on the forum so I knew he had crashed with other people who said he was a great guy), but I could immediately tell that he was our kind of person. This type of guy was just so laid back, he put you at ease, and he made it a point to help out and pull his weight which was something I immediately took note of. In a house where the people who live here don’t even go out of their way to clean and take out the trash, he was helping out and unloading the dishwasher and taking out the trash. I pick up on this kind of thing because I really appreciate it when I see people go out of their way to do something that they didn’t have to do. I like to acknowledge people when they do this, because hopefully it encourages them to continue doing things like this which just hopefully makes the world a better place, and because I hope it makes them feel good to know that someone appreciates what they did.
So after all the horrible shit that has been going on in my life lately, it was just good to meet someone who was so positive. I really needed to meet someone like that and have some positivity thrown my way, because everything pretty much sucks in my neck of the woods. After being dumped flat on my ass a week before I was going to propose to my girlfriend of 2 years, and having her up and move out leaving me with the rings I had custom made for her, I’m not exactly the most positive guy in the world. But Alex’s “eh, fuck it” attitude was awesome, and helped me see there is a better way to go about things. I’m trying to apply this kind of thinking to my own situation, because really, what can I do? If I sit around upset and depressed, it’s not going to get me anywhere other than farther down. But if I just say FUCK IT and move on doing my own thing, something positive will eventually come my way. I’m still waiting to see what this something positive might be, but hey – things can’t get any worse than they already are. I don’t really mind being alone, and it’s helped me come to terms with the fact that I really don’t mind being alone and I don’t need anyone to help “complete” me. I know from experience that I will end up meeting someone when I least expect it, but if anything this whole serious relationship situation has pretty much cemented the fact that I will not be getting into another relationship anytime soon, and I have my mind made up 100% that I will NEVER let anyone get close to me like she did and will never propose or consider marriage. I’m changing my attitude for the positive, and I know I can live my own life and be happy concentrating on my own things, but I won’t let anyone get close enough to me to hurt me like this again.
I know some of that is my own spin on things, but I do have Alex to thank for throwing some of those positive vibes my way and at least get me thinking in a positive manner. I have no problem fending for myself and focusing on staying happy.
I left him a note on the ADVrider thread that he is always welcome to crash with us if he needs a place to stay. And hopefully we’ll be meeting up somewhere on the west coast for a trip at some point in the near future…
Note: I realize I’m not cut out to be a writer because my posts start out with one topic in mind and I just drift from one thing to another as I write it. I know I’ll never be a good writer, but man it’s hard to even be a mediocre one! haha